About

So, about me then. My name is Rehan Nasir, and I’m 37, an American engineer working in Indianapolis. I have been stuttering since I was 7. I’m married with three kids under 10. Before coming to Indianapolis, we spent five years in Saudi Arabia. Before that, we lived in Omaha, Indianapolis, Pittsburgh and Philadelphia. I grew up in Pennsylvania and have a degree in mechanical engineering from the University of Pittsburgh.

As for stuttering treatments and therapies, there has been little done. From elementary to high school, I saw speech therapists that were provided by the school. The first one who I saw in elementary and junior high didn’t make much of a difference. I remember just having casual conversations (and not stuttering) and then having her tell me words and sounds to repeat. During high school, I had a different therapist who suggested some improvements to my breathing. She described it as a balloon — and then slowly let the air out to say words. I’ve used this technique — when I can remember — and it’s been somewhat successful.

After college I was able to get on the Pagoclone trials. I did that for about a year. I personally noticed some improvement, but can’t honestly remember if I could have been on a placebo or not. But I remember feeling more calm before speaking. I had a stressful job at the time, so I figured it must have been doing something. We moved toward the end of the trial and didn’t continue after that. While it’s not a cure, it certainly helped a little.

My objective for this site is to have a conversation about stuttering on a regular basis. It’s taken me this long to get online with this because I’m a closet stutterer — that is, I don’t want people to know that I stutter. But enough is enough. Time to get on with helping people and making someone else’s journey less painful.

I tried at first to post every day. That sort of worked, but then got to be too much with family, work and kids. I wanted to make sure the quality of the content remained high. So now I’m down to maybe once or twice a week. I have, however, written over a hundred thousand words on stuttering through this blog.

I went to my first NSA Conference in Washington DC. If you stutter and haven’t been, you absolutely must go. I can’t speak of it highly enough. I have since gone two more times — to Baltimore (when it was supposed to be in Chicago) and then this past July in Atlanta.

You can reach me at helloistutter at gmail dot com.

Comments

  1. Hello Rehan, I’m Amol, 21 years old and i have been stuttering from my childhood itself. This has been a very big problem in my life since everytime i do some talking especially to a stranger, my mind gets occupied with the words i need to speak..mostly the very first word. This makes me panic and i get more stuck. I try to be more calm while speaking but this doesn’t solve the problem especially in intensified moments. Can you help in any way?

    • Hi, Amol. Thanks for writing and reading the blog. Are you able to practice more with friends and maybe their friends — they’d be strangers, but not as intimidating. I have a lot of the same problems — so sometimes I just avoid talking to them altogether. I think also you should notice how fast people talk — some are slow, some are fast. So if you go up to someone and have to take a moment to take a breath, it’s ok. You don’t have to immediately start talking. I think a lot of us think this. The other thing — and it won’t help you be more fluent — but it’s just to break down the barrier and feel like it’s safe to stutter. The more you do this, the more you’ll see people don’t mind.

  2. I stutter too well it’s gone lesser now since I had to work on it to recover myself, .I am still anxious of the words I guess you understand the difficulties.
    I really think you’re a doing a great job at embracing it. It’s healthy too. Your experiences are helpful for people who stutters out there.
    I just started to blog about this too and people are reaching out to makes it feel important.

  3. hey rehan, thanks for the advice and the earlier posts regaridn this subject. Definitely agree with everything you said, will read through, appreciate it ALOT.

  4. Hey rehan, do you have any advice career wise? Did stuttering affect your career decision as far as pursuing what you wanted? I myself struggle with jumping from unversity strictly for that reason.

    • Hi Andre — I’ve written some about jobs — https://helloistutter.com/tag/jobs/

      But let me go back through those and see if I can’t add anything more. As you know, it’s complicated finding a decent job even if you don’t stutter! So on the one hand there’s living within your stuttering limits and on the other there’s trying to find long-term happiness.

      To answer your question briefly, though, stuttering did affect my career choice — but I wasn’t aware of it at the time. Only after some serious reflection did I realize what my mind was up to all those years.

      I’d say stick with getting a university degree no matter what. It’ll open so many more doors for you. Getting a job is about networking, but if you hand your resume to your best friend at the best company, he won’t be able to do anything for you if you don’t meet the minimum qualification — having a university degree.

  5. andre insanally says:

    Just came across this blog. Beyond grateful. I hope I can achieve a level of success like rehan in terms of accepting the “little” set back.#hope

    • Hey Andre — thanks for stopping by and reading! You definitely can achieve success. Just remember you can do it on your own terms. You’ll have good days and bad — but getting closer to full acceptance really does lift the burden. Look forward to hearing more from you!

  6. I will be following your blog. My daughter just started stuttering this year. She is 10.

  7. kumar kundan says:

    Conversation on a daily basis helps us contuining with our efforts.also we feel unified with the peoples who are like us and want to share their journey and experience..
    Good initiative Rehan sir..
    -k kundan,india

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